Can't Change Someone

It’s like, the absolute hardest lesson you learn about romantic relationships - that you can’t change someone. But it is also a hard lesson in co-workers and once I realized it, I created healthy boundaries in my work.

I was recently told that if a person does not pass the “reasonable person” test then you can’t change them. Any attempt will only impact me and my work because I keep trying and get little to no results. And then I feel like I have to fix this issue/relationship with this person and it’s all for not.

So, what do I do? Some in the position of authority can pull rank. I’m not in that position, so instead I have to lean heavily on systems and accountability. I can protect myself by following the established processes and holding management accountable to the processes as well. Easier said than done, but it’s a start.

And let me tell you, this was a game changer for me. Because these type of people never think it’s them. You might be reading this and be like, is it me? But just because you asked that question is reason enough to assume it isn’t.

What a world. Protect yourself and do what you can to keep yourself sane.